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 - The Case Against Time-out - The Natural Child Project
 Jul 28, 6:49am  (46 reviews) kids http://www.naturalchild.com/guest/peter_...- it bears thinking about. there is no one single approach that is a panacea of all behavior issues. however, the assumption that all misbehavior happens as a result of frustration, or that children always perceive a time out as a parental rejection, is not one i can agree with. i have occasionally used time outs with my kids when it seemed to naturally fit the situation, and in most cases it was a good thing. it was never presented as a *punishment* though, and i think that right there is the key. frustration was met with conversation, encouragement to use words. time outs were mostly for overstimulation or pushing boundaries by public acting out (extremely rare with my kids). again, as soon as you start making huge blanket statements or saying that one thing is perfect or one thing is crap, you get into trouble. kids are people, and as such, they have full-spectrum personalities and not one method of dealing with them is going to work for every situation or for every kid. it won't even work in the SAME situation for two different kids, necessarily. bottom line is know your kid, pay attention to what is happening, have compassion, and don't take the lazy way out.
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